Estate Planning for Single Parents: Guardianship, Wills, and What to Do First

Being a single parent means you are the whole safety net. If something happens to you, there is no default “other parent at home” ready to catch everything. The law will still move forward, but it may not move the way you would choose.

This is also happening in a real financial moment where one income is already stretched. A 2025 analysis found that in 372 U.S. cities they studied, the estimated cost of living exceeded the average single parent’s earnings. That pressure makes “I’ll do it later” feel reasonable, until later becomes a crisis. (Source: Parents)

Guardianship comes first because time is the enemy

If you have kids under 18, guardianship is the most urgent estate planning decision. A will is where you usually name a guardian, plus a backup, so a judge has clear direction. Without that, the court can still appoint someone, but your child may face avoidable uncertainty during a time that is already traumatic.

This matters because single parent households are common enough that courts see these situations regularly. A 2025 U.S. Census Bureau report noted that about one in four children under 21 lived with only one parent in 2022. That is a lot of families who need a clean plan when life gets messy. (Source: U.S. Census Bureau)

Step 1 is choosing the guardian who can actually do the day to day job, not just the person who loves your child. Think schedule, stability, location, and willingness. Step 2 is naming a backup guardian, because life happens to everyone. Step 3 is writing down the practical details that make guardianship work in real life, like childcare routines, medical info, school contacts, and who your child is close to. That last part is not usually a legal document, but it prevents chaos.

Your will is the backbone, but it has to match your real life accounts

A will does two big things for single parents: it names guardians and it gives clear instructions for assets that do not already have beneficiaries. The problem is that many Americans still do not have one. In 2025, only 24% of surveyed adults said they have a will, and parents with kids under 18 were highlighted as a major group still missing basic documents. (Source: Caring.com)

Once the will exists, the next step is making sure it is not fighting your beneficiary forms. Many of the biggest assets bypass the will entirely, including life insurance and retirement accounts, because they pay out based on the beneficiary designation. If those are outdated, your will cannot reliably “fix” it after the fact. Cleaning up beneficiaries is one of the fastest ways to protect your child financially.

You also want the will to reflect your actual plan for how a minor receives money. A child cannot usually inherit outright in the way an adult can. That means your will should address who manages the money and under what terms, so you do not accidentally create a court supervised process that drags on.

If your child is a minor, you usually need a trust plan for the money

A lot of single parents assume a will alone handles everything. In reality, guardianship and money management are two different jobs. The guardian raises your child. A trustee manages funds for your child’s benefit. Sometimes that is the same person, sometimes it should not be.

This is where a simple trust setup can do heavy lifting. A trust can set guardrails like paying for housing, education, childcare, and health costs, while delaying full control until your child is older and more financially ready. It also helps avoid delays and public court processes in many situations. In 2025, Trust & Will reported that 83% of Americans say estate planning is important, yet only 31% have a will, which usually means even fewer have a coordinated plan for how kids receive and use funds. (Source: Trust & Will)

You do not need to be wealthy for this to matter. A life insurance policy, a 401(k), or a home can create real money that needs a responsible adult in charge for years. A basic trust plan is often the difference between “my kid is supported” and “my kid’s money is stuck.”

Lock in the adults who can act for you while you are alive

Estate planning is not only about death. If you are in the hospital and cannot speak for yourself, you want chosen people who can make medical and financial decisions. That usually means a healthcare proxy or medical power of attorney, and a durable financial power of attorney. These documents keep bills paid, keep insurance and benefits from lapsing, and keep your child’s routine stable.

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When you put guardianship, a will, a minor-friendly money plan, and decision-maker documents together, you have the core system a single parent actually needs.

The most confident next step is to book a complimentary call with Legacy Promises Network to map out the right setup for your family, then get matched with support that helps you build the documents correctly and keep them aligned over time.

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